Being rejected is like a gut-punch. At one point, you’re all hyped, then there’s the let-down. Your emotions are in a tailwind. However, you muffle the screams and ponder what might’ve gone wrong. It’s now your responsibility to turn that rejection into action.
The Power of Rejection
Rejection can make you or break you. Sometimes, not getting what you think you wanted is a good thing. I know you’re probably thinking, “It’s easy for you to say.”
I admit that rejection is a huge pill to swallow. When I look back at my long list of being rejected for jobs, car loans, and by a love interest, it seems that unfavorable information finds its way to me about those who rejected me. Does that sound like a little bad karma or is it the evolution of circumstances? Or, maybe, it was the will of the universe.
No matter how you may look at it, a rejection happened. You may or may never know the reason, but you had to accept it at face value and continue on your journey.
How Do You Like Your Rejection?
Some people like confrontation. I don’t belong to that group.
If you didn’t get selected for a job, expect a form letter. Do you think the company’s human resources department or the potential client has the time or the proper words to tell you over the phone or in-person? In rare instances, you may receive that phone call or face-to-face contact.
Let’s say that you meet someone while out doing errands. From the moment your eyes meet, it was an instant attraction. You exchange numbers and go out on your first date. Your love interest seems nice enough but you wonder if the feelings are mutual. However, you overlook that thought and get the okay for a second date. In between dates, you send little sweet text messages and receive no reply. Now you wonder why you can’t receive a simple text back. The day of your second date comes and goes without any reciprocated interaction. You’ve been ghosted. Ouch!
Being ghosted is better than public humiliation. Imagine being rejected in front of cell phone camera happy onlookers. Then they post your humiliation on social media for the world to ridicule. Now your pain is highlighted and harder to overcome.
Turn That Rejection Into Action
Rejection isn’t always a bad thing. As a matter of fact, in some cases, it’s the best thing to do. Rejecting a 550 calorie slice of cake is a good thing for your waistline.
However, when someone rejects you, you can’t help but feel the disappointment. The important thing is not letting it bring you down for too long. Brush that rejection off and chart your course to success.
If they tell you they went with someone more experienced, look elsewhere for companies that accept and are willing to train less-experienced applicants. Brush up on any skills that would strengthen your ability to land a desired job.
When you have unrequited love, don’t fret. You probably dodged a big bullet. When someone’s not into you, accept it. Don’t try to make them love you by stalking them or something worse. If the feeling isn’t there, it just isn’t there. Be the best person that you can be, and the right person will eventually enter your life.
